I want to share my thoughts of Steve by first acknowledging that he created an incredibly beautiful family – a family that has been especially important to my family for over 25 years.
Many of us parents believe our most lasting / indelible contribution is how well we share our lives with our children, our parents and our friends & neighbors. Steve was very generous in sharing his affection, sense of humor and calm / steady demeanor with all of us - and we are better for it.
So, I’d like to share a few memories of the entire Hellebush family and their especially important impact on me and my family.
Meeting the Hellebush gang for the first time
The way I remember it…. Our neighbor Peggy called me…. “… Susan, the new family that just moved in, has a son Michael’s age (2 YO at the time).” This news was simply GOLD. When we first met in the cul-de-sac, I believe young Nate had just gotten stiches for a recent fall or something equally as impressive. It was then that I knew this kid was going to be a perfect match for my energetic, mischievous, sports-obsessed little boy. THIS WAS GOING TO BE AWESOME.
And – I was right – now, both energetic, mischievous, sports-obsessed little boys are 26 and are still remarkably close, navigating their adult lives with each other’s support.
The Hellebush family home quickly became the central meeting place for the neighborhood kids and us tired parents. It was a haven for socializing, commiserating, telling stories and best of all supporting each other. And my goodness… the amazing food. (Angie – you killed it, every time)
And a special shout out to Angie and Steve – for their bravery in buying the large trampoline for their backyard - with basketball hoop. The perfect combination of fun and danger… (Saved us lots of money in sitters for a few summers).
Amid the chaos of the crazy boys, there was amazing young Maddie - so kind, smart, patient, and thoughtful. I’m a little embarrassed to admit it - but there were times when young Maddie seemed more mature / logical than I was. I learned not to be intimidated by it – just accept it as the gift that it was (and is) Maddie - thanks for all the advice.
The Steve / Angie duo was powerful – always welcoming and inviting. The kind and relaxed attitude that “there’s always room for one more” was so appreciated by all of us - an attitude I always admired but never quite mastered.
Steve was so gracious, kind, and always made the effort to talk directly to YOU - he made you feel like you were the only person in the room. And even more impressive, he took the time to talk directly to the kids – one on one – making them feel important and special and smart.
And, if you were on your game – and made Steve laugh – you were rewarded with that booming, baritone laugh that made you feel that what you just said was so amazingly funny.
In a word – Steve was an “elegant” man.
Quote from Jackie Robinson:
“A life is not important Except in the Impact it has on other lives.”
Thank you, Steve, for making a large and lasting impact on so many of us – and especially me and my family. We love you.